Climb Up and Walk On

During the months leading up to and following A’s diagnosis in December, I hit a very low spot in my life. It has been coming on for quite some time now, but this was a breaking point for me.  I slipped into a dark place.

I am trying to climb up and walk on.

At the end of December, I started seeing a therapist for me.  Did you hear that? That is right, I said m-e, ME.

She is a wondering, caring, insightful woman who has special needs children of her own.  She is helping me to climb up out of the dark place I slipped into.  It is not a quick process, nor an easy process.  I am being helped along by a good new friend of mine, Zoloft.

During the past year, and especially the past six months or so, there are many areas of my life that have really taken a beating.  My home, my marriage, my job, friendships.  I could continue, but I won’t.  The important thing is I am working on building those things back up.  I am climbing up and walking on.

One of the things I am working on with my therapist is working on these things for me.  Her theory with me is that I am so busy taking care of everyone else that I have totally forgotten about me.  Not an uncommon thing to have happen to a mom of two young children.  Probably even less uncommon for a mom of two young, special needs children.

That being said, there is not reason to neglect me.  My husband, my children, my family, my friends and my coworkers all need me to take care of me.

There was a time in my life when I worked hard to find ways to get my husbands head to turn.  More recently, I quickly find my ugliest pair of sweatpants in hopes that at the end of the day he won’t want anything to do with me and I can just be left alone.  In the past I prided myself on always being responsive to my friends and family.  Now emails and phones calls often times go unanswered.  My job used to be a very important part of me.  I was always proud of my work because I worked hard to make a good product.  Lately, I find myself doing the bare minimum and spending a good part of the day just staring at my computer screen not knowing what to do.

I need to shine again.  I need to be a good wife, a caring friend and a successful worker.  Not because it is the right thing to do.  Not because someone told me I need to.  I need to do it because it is part of what makes me the person I am.  It is what makes me happy.

Going forward I am still going to be an awesome mom and a huge advocate for my children.  I will do anything to make their lives a little bit easier.  However, I am going to keep reminding myself to be me, to make myself happy too.

I am climbing up and walking on.

 

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