Making Mommy Proud

Our neighbor’s grandson, J (4), was over playing with B (5) recently.  B asked if he could have him come in to play Lego’s.  They came in and headed downstairs to play.  When J, the other little boy, realized we had loads of Thomas trains, he no longer had any interest in playing with B.  B thinks he is too cool for trains, so they were just both doing their own thing.  After a while, J asked B why he wasn’t playing with him and B reminded him that he didn’t want to play trains.

I was just staying in the background watching their interaction instead of facilitating social communication and play at this point, when the most wonderful thing happened!  The following conversation was initiated by B:

B: “Hey J, you know what I like to do? I like to squish down in the box with all these balls, it feels really good.”

J: …looks at B like he is crazy! 😀

B: “So J, what do you like to play?”

J: “I just want to play trains.”

B: “Do you want to squish in this box with me?”

J: “No thank you.”

B: “So J, I know you like to play Thomas, but what else do you like to play?”

J: “I like Pokemon.”

B: “We don’t have any Pokemon.  You could go in that box over there?”

J: “No, I don’t think I would like it.”

B: “You know J, sometimes we have to try things even if we don’t think it will be fun.  You should try it, you might find out you will like squishing in boxes.”

J: “I don’t think so.”

Then B disappears into his box, A comes over and wants to get in with him.  They are laughing and having a good time.

J: “Do you think I could fit in that box with you?”

B: “Sure, come on in.”

These are the moments when I so clearly see how important intervention is.  It was so cool to see him using the social communication that he has been learning from us, in his social skills groups and in school in a real life setting.  A year ago, if this same scenario would have been happening, he would have remained completely oblivious to the other child, or would have thrown a holy fit because J didn’t want to do what he was doing.  Seeing this progress makes it all worth it!

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